Be Happy and Thin- In Moderation

I read recently about a study that showed that people who were happy lived longer than people who were thin.  (Sorry- I can't find the reference right now.) To some people, that may sound like a good excuse to stop the diet and exercise routines, and just have a good time.  My thought was, "Why can't you have both?"  I am sure there are people out there who just naturally have both.  I used to be one of them.
I think I am already a fairly happy person.  I don't let things get to me much.  I want to focus on the getting thin part of the equation.  I have been talking about dieting for a couple of months now, but all kinds of things got in the way of my resolve: vacation, holidays, family gatherings, etc.  Good excuses all, but I could have stuck to my diet better if I had really tried.
So, about that idea of being happy and thin?  My answer is: Moderation.  Many 'How to lose weight ' lists say that cutting out things like soda, fancy coffee drinks, and the like will save you excess calories.  One of my readers posted a comment recently and stated she had lost 10 pounds by cutting out drinking milk.  That is a great way to drop pounds, and fairly easy, especially if you replace whatever it is that you eliminate with something else more healthy.  My problem is, that I already eat healthy, so I don't have much I can cut from my diet.  I recently started to go without my juice in the morning.  I figured that I eat plenty of fruit, so I don't need the nutrients I would get from the juice.  That is a start.

Eating gluten free helps me somewhat, because I can't have cookies, cakes, etc. that always seem to be appearing at work and social events.  Following a gluten free diet does have its hazards, though.  Gluten free bagels, bread, etc., tends to be more calorie rich than the gluten containing equivalents. The answer?  Moderation: eat less of it. That is where the idea of being happy comes into all this.  Instead of depriving yourself of something you really want, eat a smaller portion than you normally would take.  Don't take seconds.  This way, you get to enjoy whatever it is, but you also take in fewer calories than you would have.  Your rate of losing weight will be slower this way than if you were on a strict diet, but most people are more likely to stick to this kind of diet, and be happier than if they were depriving themselves.
This is a situation in which you need to know yourself.  Some people are not able to control how much they eat of something they like, and may need to avoid it altogether.  When I go to a restaurant here in the US, meals are usually huge.  I often take home at least half of my food to eat for another meal.  If you have tried to do this but consistently fail, try asking for a box before you eat, and set aside part of your meal.  If you still can't keep from eating the whole thing, try ordering smaller meals, don't go out to eat so often, or just accept that this is one area you can't control.  Occasional indulgences may be necessary for the 'being happy' part.  Just remember- moderation.
In general, if you take in fewer calories than your body is used to, and/or increase activity, you will ultimately lose weight, though not necessarily rapidly.  (Science is finding that this is not exactly true, but that is a more complex discussion than I can provide here.) Eat what you usually eat, only less of it, especially the unhealthy stuff.  Replace unhealthy foods with more healthy alternatives.
Many people find that having a partner or class makes exercise and dieting easier and more fun.  Take care of your health needs, but don't let this be your main occupation.  Make sure you include ways to enjoy live in your daily routines.  Practice an attitude of gratitude. 
Remember- being thin will not make you a happier person.  You can be overweight and still be both happy and healthy, and you can be thin and be sad and unhealthy.   Weight and happiness are not really related.  The message I am trying to send is that you can work on losing weight without making yourself miserable. Just remember- moderation. 

I Can't Have My Cookies And Eat Them, Too

I pride myself on my good diet.  My shopping cart is mostly filled with fresh fruits and vegetables, low fat/fat free milk products, and whole grain products.  This hasn’t been a response to recent pushes to decrease meat and fast food consumption.  I don’t like handling raw meat, and I don’t like the taste of most fast food and prepackaged foods.   I also have a history of digestive issues, including gastroparesis, where the food is not pushed through the stomach like it should be, and an ongoing battle with barely controlled GERD (acid reflux).  My good diet helps to control the GERD, but actually causes problems when the gastroparesis flares up, because the stomach has to work harder to digest raw fruits and veggies than it would softer foods.

We spend many of our weekends at our cabin, and recently I have gotten terrible nausea and GERD flares every time we are there.  It usually flares up right after breakfast, and lasts until after I go to bed, calms down through the night, then flares again the next morning.  Our breakfasts at the cabin are slightly different from those at home because we have more time to eat, but contain nothing that I don’t eat on a regular basis at home.  So I have spent too much time feeling sick, and have been trying to sleuth out the cause.  I will admit that we eat more junk food at the cabin,  there is a little store that has my husband’s favorite brownies, there is an Amish family nearby that sells fresh baked goods out of their home, and my husband likes to have ice cream in the evening, and it just wouldn’t be polite to let him eat alone…  Just to preserve my reputation, I have to point out that my junk food consumption consists of maybe a cookie, half a brownie, and a small serving of ice cream with caramel sauce.  Even at its junkiest, my diet is better than the average American’s daily diet. 

But I wasn’t getting sick the first day at the cabin, and it always started in the morning, not at night, when I ate that stuff.  I was trying various nausea, gas, acid and digestive enzymes, with limited improvement.  So, what was happening to my stomach?  I think I finally figured it out.  I am eating the junk in the afternoon and evening, putting more fat and sugar into my system than it is used to.  My digestive system processes it as best it can.  In the morning, when I introduce my breakfast of fresh fruits, yogurt and bagel, my stomach rebels, saying, “I worked overtime yesterday, I’m off duty.”  My intestines chime in, saying “We’re still working on yesterday’s influx.  Check back with us later.” The food sits there, and the acid in my stomach calls in its friends to help it clean up the roadblock. 

This explanation may not stand up under scientific scrutiny, but it seems plausible to me, given my body’s quirkiness, and tendency to respond in unexpected ways to medications and environmental influences.  I have read about the importance of getting consistent sleep each day, rather than sleeping in on the weekends.  I guess the same holds true for eating, and eating a consistent diet is best.  So I can either increase my junk food intake during the week, or decrease it on weekends.  The former sounds like the best route from the perspective of my tongue, but I suspect that my stomach might rebel everyday if I try that.   So, much to my chagrin, I guess I will need to limit my intake of these junk foods to one, or on occasion, two portions a day.

My message for the day?  Not only to eat healthy, but also eat consistently.  Thanksgiving is coming up soon, a day when Americans traditionally eat to excess, including desserts such as my favorite, pumpkin pie.  I have read suggestions like drinking two glasses of water or eating a small, healthy snack a few hours before the holiday meal, so you will not be so hungry.  I am not sure how much this will help.  It depends on your willpower.  I don’t think hunger plays a very big part in eating at such meals. I think it is more a matter of getting caught up in the holiday mood, and wanting to have some of everything, because it is there.  There is nothing wrong with having some of everything, but take small portions, and pace yourself.  Save your dessert for a snack later, or the next day.  Eat slowly, socialize more.  You will be less likely to take seconds.  If you want seconds, remind yourself what it feels like to be overstuffed. 

When I go out to eat, I frequently come home with leftovers for another meal, sometimes two. I have heard people say that they can’t stop eating, and can never save some food to take home.  This is a matter of training yourself.  Cut the food in half before you begin to eat.  By saying you can’t, you are giving up before you even try.  I know that there will be times when I eat more junk food than I should, and I will have the problems I talked about above.  But I know that this is not a matter of not being able to control myself, but it is a matter of knowing I should and could control myself, but I choose not to.  It isn’t easy to assert control, especially if it is a new skill, and you are confronted by all kinds of goodies.  Remembering the discomfort I will experience if I don’t assert control will help me to be strong.  What is it that will help you be strong and control your overindulging?